I have a confession. I love reality tv. My very favourite show is Tori and Dean.

When I first watched the show I wasn’t that into it. Tori seemed kind of whiny and high maintenance.

But the more I watched it the more I liked it because Tori and Dean seem to have a lovely relationship.

It taught me that when your priorities are straight, when your husband and family come before anything else, the other pieces just seem to fall into place. There’s less challenge in struggling career and family, because when you know your most important job is your family, I guess you don’t stay late at work and leave your kids with their nanny night after night. You also make sure that doing lovely things happen regularly, like surprising your honey for Valentine’s Day or taking a weekend trip away.

And Tori and Dean are always doing kind and thoughtful things for each other. They really respect each others wishes, and they make spending time together as a family a priority, and they keep the sparks alive.

It’s lovely to see.